Embark on a journey into the unsettling realm of one of America’s most notorious serial killers, Jeffrey Dahmer. Shari Jordan, as I open the door to the eerie chapters of my life as his stepmother. This is a narrative of horror, love, and the lingering legacy that connects me to a man whose mere mention sends chills through the spines of true crime enthusiasts across the globe.
Who is Shari Jordan?
Shari Jordan assumed the role of stepmother to one of the world’s most infamous serial killers upon her marriage to Lionel Dahmer in 1978.
Following Lionel’s divorce from Jeffrey’s mother, Joyce, Shari became an integral part of the Dahmer family, dedicating a significant amount of time to building connections with Lionel’s two teenage sons, Jeffrey and David.
Their initial encounter occurred at Jeffrey’s mother’s residence in Columbus, Wisconsin, where he resided alone following Joyce’s departure.
In a two-part Oxygen documentary named Dahmer On Dahmer, Shari characterized him as “vulnerable” and expressed an immediate desire to “mother” him.
She asserted that the killer felt “embarrassed and ashamed” about his parents’ divorce but was adept at concealing his emotions.
Shari elaborated, stating, “What I, like many others, wanted to do was to mother him.
He was incredibly vulnerable. Even if I hadn’t been his stepmother throughout his life, as a mother, you pick up on those things. When his mother left, and he chose to stay behind, he became profoundly lonely, and that’s when the first murder occurred.”
The stepmother revealed that she soon became aware of Jeffrey’s struggles with alcohol, recalling an instance where she discovered him in a drunken slumber. She claimed he would pilfer the liquor cabinet and replace the empty bottles with water.
Describing him as a “closet alcoholic,” she emphasized that there were no other indications of his disturbing obsessions.
Shari jordan and Lionel would frequently visit Jeffrey at his residence, noting that it was consistently “perfectly clean” and “spotless.
Lionel Dahmer, Spouse of Shari Dahmer
In 1978, Shari Jordan entered matrimony with Lionel Dahmer, becoming his second wife. Their union endured for four decades until Shari’s passing. They shared the joy of raising a son named David, who, in turn, had an older stepbrother from Lionel’s prior marriage.
Lionel Dahmer’s initial marriage was to Joyce Dahmer, resulting in the birth of their son Jeffrey. Following Joyce’s departure during Jeffrey’s childhood, Lionel chose to embark on a new chapter by marrying Shari Dahmer.
Born in 1936 in West Allis, Wisconsin, Lionel Dahmer gained recognition as the father of the infamous serial killer Jeffrey Dahmer.
As of 2023, Lionel Dahmer is still living and has engaged in numerous interviews following the revelation of his son’s crimes. Additionally, he authored a book titled “A Father’s Story,” delving into his perspective on his son’s actions.
Lionel and Shari Dahmer’s Son
Shari and Lionel Dahmer shared a son named David Dahmer. Prior to marrying Shari, Lionel had a son named Jeffrey Dahmer from his previous marriage to Joyce. When Lionel and Shari tied the knot, David and Jeffrey became stepbrothers.
Stepson of Shari Dahmer
Upon marrying Lionel Dahmer, Shari Jordan became the stepmother of Jeffrey Dahmer, infamous as one of the worst serial killers in American history. Between 1978 and 1991, Jeffrey committed 17 murders and acts of cannibalism. Joyce Dahmer, Jeffrey’s biological mother, died in 2000. Jeffrey’s stepbrother, David Dahmer, is still alive. Jeffrey passed away in jail after being killed by fellow prisoner Christopher Scarver.
Shari Jordan’s Passing
Shari Jordan’s life was tragically cut short when she peacefully passed away in 2012 at the age of 58. She left this world surrounded by loved ones, including her five biological grandchildren, in the comfort of her daughter’s home. Her memory is cherished and kept alive through the support given to her family. I hope those who knew her will remember her with fondness and that she rests in peace.
Shari Dahmer’s Thoughts on Jeffrey
In 2004, Shari and Lionel Dahmer appeared on the Larry King Live show to share their perspectives on Jeffrey Dahmer. Despite his heinous crimes, they maintained contact with him during his prison sentence, believing he suffered from a mental illness. Shari Jordan expressed her desire to prevent others from following a similar path as Jeffrey and emphasized the importance of understanding the underlying reasons for his actions.
In contrast to her stepson David, Shari took pride in the family name and did not distance herself from it. In a later interview with Dr. Phil in November 2022, Lionel reflected on Jeffrey being at the extreme end of the ‘continuum of bad behavior.’